Love

Love. What is love? How do you explain love? From what I heard, love is about letting go. Sacrificing what you have for your loved ones. But think again. Do we have to sacrifice what we have for our loved ones? Let's say he wants to kiss you. In public. Would you want to do that? As Muslims, we can't do that. So, it will be like taking your dignity away. Embarrassment. Guilt. Won't you feel that way if you were in that position? So, is that what love means?

Love is unconditional. To love someone, you must love them unconditionally. Or it's not love. Loving somebody unconditionally means that you love them just the way they are. Even if she's a whore. Even if he's a jerk. Even if she humiliates you in public. Even if he cuts all your credit cards.

People change often. Into a better person. Into a worse person. Who knows what the future holds. To love someone unconditionally, you have to love them no matter what they do. Even if you disagree with it. To love someone unconditionally means to love someone no matter how they look like. Ugly, pretty, cute, handsome. Love isn't about needs. You don't need that person to be rich and gorgeous and down to earth to love him/her. If you love somebody that's arrogant and ugly and snobby, without getting sick of what he/she does, then you are loving him/her unconditionally.

Love in not about fear. It's not about jealousy. It's not about possessiveness. Love is not about lust. It's not expecting him/her to be like you want him/her to be. No matter how ugly that person really is, inside and outside, and you don't mind what she/he does, then, that is love. That is what love really means. That is how you love somebody.

Truth is, nobody can tell you what love really is. So, to love somebody, you have to forget everything you learned about it. Because love is spontaneous. It happens just like that. Like magic. You never know when you're gonna love somebody. Sometimes, in a blink of an eye, you see an angel right in front of you and you feel that tingle in your heart and butterflies in your stomach and your whole world just lit up and you feel like you are the only two people left in the world. Sometimes, you don't know what you're getting yourself into. 'Cause when you're in love, you do crazy things. You scream at things he does even if it's just a small thing. You melt when he compliments you. You feel like you're, I don't know. The only girl in the world I guess.

Ever seen the movie, My Sassy Girl? Well, that movie explains a lot about love. He's mature. She's immature. He's responsible. She's out of control. He's focused. She's fun. He's sophisticated. She's wild. See how different they are from each other? Surely the guy would want a girl just like him. But no. He loves the girl who drives him nuts. Who made him do illegal things. Who brings up a whole other side of him. And he has never asked her to change. That is what love is. You just go with it. No matter how embarrassed you'll be if you do that. No matter how immature that is. That's love.

As a boyfriend, your job is to know how to comfort your girlfriend. You should know how to not make your girlfriend sad or mad. That goes the same to the girlfriend. You should know how to entertain her. How to make her happy. You should remember everything she tells you about her. The little things. Those are the things that counts most. Treat her like she's the best thing that's ever happened to you. 'Cause that's what girls want. Yeah, maybe girls are so needy and all those stuff. But it's just like that. As a boyfriend, you should never ask, "how do I make you happy?" because she'll only get madder or sadder that she was before because the only person who she expects to comfort her is her boyfriend and to know that he doesn't know how to do just makes it worse. So yeah, if you really love her, you'd know exactly how to treat her at her best and at her worst.

As a girlfriend, you have to respect your boyfriend. Respect his decisions. If he doesn't like what you do, you could either change or tell him why you act that way. I understand that you're your own person, but he has a saying in this. This goes the same to the boyfriend as well. As a girlfriend, you should not make your boyfriend mad. Never go over the limit. Especially with sensitive and hot-headed boys. You will not want to know what will happen if you go over the limit. You should also not get jealousy ahead of you. As I stated above, jealousy is not love. And one more thing about jealousy, is that it started off little. Then, it grows bigger and bigger. And before you know it, you won't let him talk to any girl at all (same with boys).

So, conclusion, as a couple, you guys should not be jealous of whoever talks to another girl or boy. You should respect each other. Make some rules to avoid fights. Don't cheat on each other or doubt each other. But then again, who am I to tell you how to live your life, right? I mean, if you do this kind of thing with each other that makes you happy, then continue on doing it. Be different!

Every child deserves a parent's love. A friend of mine told me that her father would sign a contract or whatever it is to say that she's not her daughter anymore if she converts from whatever religion she is to a Muslim. What kind of parent does that? She's still your child. Shouldn't you love her in any way she is? Parents should help their children in any matter. Big or small.

Love. What can you say about it? It's amazing.